Most of our couples pursue “intimacy” as if it were the Holy Grail—ever-elusive, not quite real, a matter of sheer luck. And like those medieval knights pursuing the Grail a thousand years ago, our couples usually approach their quest with insufficient knowledge of what they’re really after.
Most therapists have a general sense of what intimacy involves; but explaining intimacy’s actual nuts-and-bolts can be difficult. Finding the ideal vocabulary for each couple is a daunting task.
This webinar will examine the most basic components of intimacy:
- Shared values
- Explicit agreements
- Conflict management
- Empathy & self-soothing
- Communication & meta-communication
- Power dynamics
- Ability & desire to connect
We’ll examine how to discuss these dimensions of intimacy with couples; how to inspire their curiosity and motivation to enhance their skills; and how to support couples whose improved intimacy leads to disappointment, conflict, and the need for new agreements.
That’s when deep change is possible—an amazing experience for therapist and couples alike.